Way back when, folks disciplined their children with something other than logic (at least in my neck of the woods they did)- a wooden spoon on your arse and if you were reallllly bad, then you were told 'You just wait till your father gets home!'
Translation - you would be forced to lower your pants and get a strapping with a leather belt.
Last strapping I had, I was fourteen years old.
Nowadays, if you did that, you'd be in jail.
But that was the norm back then.
In fact, the educational system allowed teachers to 'strap' the students when they misbehaved.
My, we have come a long way.
Dunno how parents 'discipline' their children these days as it must be tough. I think the only way to do it would be to remove a cherished item (iPod, cell, toy) or not allow something they like (favorite tv program) and the key to making it all work is to be consistent in your message as to what is appropriate and what is not.
I raised my kids in between both of those times - you could still use a wooden spoon et al but it was avantgarde to reason with your child instead of physical discipline.
And I used both when the time, the mood and the situation called for it.
And that is just the way things were.
And you?
What did you do to discipline your child(ren)?
QueeneMab
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Was lucky didn't have to often get cross with the Moff. It is a difficult question.
I am mainly against physical punishment, and mainly I think praising and rewarding good behaviour and ignoring bad works best. But generally reasoning with kids works best, if that fails then grounding them or not allowing to do or have something is the next step. With kids between about 5 and 8 though, I think a slap on the bum or leg (not too hard) is very occasionally called for if kids are persistently naughty or are doing something dangerous or wilful or malicious towards others.
I think I got smacked about 4 or 5 times in my life. I recall all the incidents and was conscious at the time that I was being naughty. So to be honest all of them were richly deserved and it did not do me any harm.
The problem at the moment judging by the state of society is that whatever modern parents and teachers are doing is clearly not always effective as kids don't seem to recognise amber lights but accelerate through the red ones and end up getting into serious trouble.
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